Give A Good First Impression On Your First Date

 

Everyone wants to make a good impression on a first date. Read our tips and secure that second date no problem!

 

Be on time.

It’s always rude to be late but being late on a first date is definitely not going to win you any brownie points. Fair enough if you have a valid reason but make sure you let them know and tell them why and if you can, roughly when you think you’ll arrive. Definitely don’t cancel on your date unless you absolutely have to, otherwise they will be unlikely to give you a second chance.

 

Dress appropriately.

If you’re going to a nice restaurant, don’t turn up in shorts and flip flops! Equally if you’re just going to a café for a coffee, there’s no need to wear a suit!
You don’t need to spend hours choosing an outfit but your date will appreciate you making a bit of effort and shows that you’re serious about your date.

Make eye contact.

You’re much more likely to connect with the other person if you make eye contact. They’ll know you’re listening and are interested in what they’re saying, rather than looking around the room and not paying attention. It will also help you to know if they’re making eye contact with you as well, as then you’ll know they’re engaged in the conversation and interested in you.

 

Ask questions.

You need to let your date know that you’re interested in them and the best way to show that is to ask questions about them. Only ask things that are relevant and that you genuinely want to know. There’s no point getting into a deep conversation about something you know nothing about. Keep the conversation light hearted and get to know each other.
Also make sure you listen to their answers and don’t keep talking about yourself!

 

Don’t have your phone out.

You’re probably only going to be with your date for a couple of hours for your initial meeting, to suss whether you’re interested on taking it further. There is no need to keep checking your phone – your date wants your full attention. Put your phone in your bag/pocket and only look at it when you absolutely need to.

 

Be mindful of your manners.

Not only do you need to be aware of your manners with your date, you need to make sure you’re polite to everyone around you. Your date will be watching how you handle yourself and if you’re rude to waiting staff, they won’t be impressed. Treat people how you want to be treated and you’ll get more respect.

 

 Pay them compliments.

If you’re interested in your date and would like to see them again, compliment them. Tell them you like something they’re wearing, or that they have lovely eyes. Something that simple will let them know you like them and if they like you back they’ll return the favour!

 

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Ten Topics To Avoid On A First Date

You want to secure a second date so make sure you avoid talking about these topics.

  1. Politics.

You don’t need to know what their persuasion is on a first date. This could affect how much you like them/how well the date goes and there’s no need to talk about it. Keep conversation light hearted and get to know each other.

 

  1. Previous partners.

Do you really want to know what their last partner was like? You’ll probably just end up comparing yourself to them which is never a good thing. You also probably don’t want to know how many previous partners they’ve had or how many dates they’ve been on – it’s never what you want to hear!

 

  1. Money.

Never ask how much they earn or tell them how much you earn. Either way you won’t come across well. Keep it to simpler topics like hobbies or even just what they do for work.

 

  1. Religion.

Religion can be a very personal subject. Many people will not agree on religious subjects so it’s best not to bring this into conversation.

 

  1. Marriage/children.

This is definitely not a topic for a first date! You don’t want to scare them off so don’t bring up commitment until you’re both sure that’s where your relationship is heading.

 

  1. Work.

You can absolutely find out what each other does for a living but don’t moan about not liking your job or how much you dislike your colleague – your date isn’t interested! Also you don’t know if your date knows anyone you work with so it’s best not to moan about them!

 

  1. Yourself.

You will of course be talking about yourself when your date asks questions about you but don’t keep talking about yourself unprompted. Ask your date questions about themselves rather than banging on about yourself all the time.

 

  1. What you’re looking for.

Don’t get into a conversation about what sort of person you’re looking for, it only shows you as being high maintenance or picky (you’re allowed to be picky, just don’t let them know that!).

 

  1. Your own appearance.

If you put yourself down, your date won’t find this attractive. If you big yourself up they won’t find this attractive either. Let them compliment you if they want to and by all means compliment them but don’t mention your own appearance.

 

  1. Your family background.

By all means tell them how many siblings you have but there’s no need for any more detail than that, they’re on a date with you, not your entire family!

 

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